I couldn’t decide what to write this post about; family relationships, friendships, or the absence of romantic relationships on a day when ‘romance is in the air.’ And then I came to the conclusion that an important factor in any kind of relationship is the one you have with yourself. When you don’t feel good in yourself then you’ll struggle to both maintain healthy relationships and create new ones.
1. PUT ALL THE FEEL-GOODS ON
That includes feel-good music (mine is Keala Settle – This is Me from The Greatest Showman because it’s so empowering), a movie (Alice in Wonderland for its far-fetched storyline), and book (Fantastic Beasts: The Crimes of Grindelwald because I feel so accomplished finishing it in one day!). Filling your life with happy music, movies and books can provide for both a much-needed boost to your mood, or a welcome relief from reality.
2. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE
You can’t feel good in yourself if you’re surrounded by people who are showing negativity and are only bringing you down rather than building you up. Bullies aren’t always easy to spot; sometimes they can be people you might hold closely and are oblivious to their undermining or demeaning slights.
3. DO SOMETHING YOU LOVE
Whether that be writing a blog post, spending time on a hobby, doing some arts and crafts, going to the cinema, taking photographs… With our days being so consumed by appointments, work, assignments, phone calls and boring adult chores; it’s so important that you take time out of your day to do at least one thing that you like to do.
4. PRACTICE SELF-CARE
Self-care comes in many forms and it doesn’t have to just be about getting plenty of sleep, eating well, and doing some form of exercise (though these things are important!). It can also be about taking a bath, washing your hair, taking your medication, practicing Mindfulness, engaging in Psychology…