Wednesday, 8 November 2017

COPING WITH MY ABUSER'S PROMOTION


I know already that this is going to be a hard post to write. And not because it’s deep, or emotional. But because I need to talk about something to do with my trauma, and as most of you (although there’s been a lot of new readers recently! – Welcome to I’m NOT Disordered!!) know; ‘due to legal reasons,’ I can’t give much information about the sexual abuse and rape that I was subjected to.

I could understand not being allowed to tell you the person’s name, but it’s that I can’t even tell you the basics. For example, what profession this person is in, or where the abuse happened. Apparently, just by saying those two basic details, and if you knew me during the years the abuse happened (2006-2007) then you could put it all together; and make a reasonable assumption of the identity of the person. Apparently, that wouldn’t be fair on him because he was never proven guilty.

Friday, 3 November 2017

BOOK REVIEW PART TWO : LINES FROM AN UNFINISHED LOVE SONG BY GAIL CURRY | Ad


Welcome back to more Lines From An Unfinished Love Song chat!!

If you don’t have a clue what I’m on about, here’s the previous three posts:




I knew that the second part of Lines From An Unfinished Love Song would be difficult and perhaps upsetting to read. It wasn’t just seeing that the second part of the book was named ‘Grief, Depression & PTSD;’ but also that the first part finished with such a heart-wrenching moment in which Gail (Curry; the author) lost her wife: Lena.

This feeling only worsened when I read the first poem; ‘Lost’ and identified 100% with Gail’s words.



‘A day seems longer than a day

When the only voice that’s heard comes from inside me.’ 

Tuesday, 17 October 2017

THE BIG AWKWARD CHAT: SEX, RAPE, & SEXUAL ABUSE

trigger warning: this post contains discussion of topics that may be upsetting to some readers


Even just writing the title of this post has me feeling awkward, embarrassed, anxious and doubtful that I should write such a post!
But why?
People talk about having children.
People talk about getting married.
People definitely talk about sex.
And people are starting to talk about rape and sexual abuse.
So is it that, because someone/I experiences those last two things it is made more difficult to discuss – or even mention – the rest?

Saturday, 14 October 2017

HAPPY THIRD BIRTHDAY DOLLY (MY CAT)!!!


As I have done the past three years, I wanted to write a special post for Dolly’s Third Birthday. On her First Birthday I wrote about my top twelve moments from the first twelve months of her life. On her Second Birthday I blogged about the past twenty four months with Dolly and some of my favourite memories.
Note: I also blogged about the day I got Dolly; and you can read that here
To mark her Third Birthday I’d like to tell you all my three favourite things about Dolly…

1.       “She’s a trooper!”
A good few months ago now, Dolly became poorly. She was wrongly diagnosed twice (first with a urine infection, and second with Cystitis) and eventually after lots of antibiotics and medications, I took her to the local emergency vets ready to demand that she have tests if they tried to send me home. The entire time, Dolly was still Dolly. Just quieter. Subdued. She plodded on though. It turned that out that she had blood clots in her bladder. She had a barrage of tests, scans, and medication but she pulled through and came out the other end! I worried that she’d become aggressive after hearing that the staff had to sedate her for any interaction with her because she’d been so vicious.

Friday, 13 October 2017

AD | CYGNET NATIONAL SERVICE USER AWARDS | NOMINATIONS OPEN SOON!! | AD



I’m delighted to be able announce to you guys that for the 2018 National Service User Awards (NSUA); I’ll be taking on the role as Head of Social Media!


It’s a brand new role for this year’s NSUA and is a mark of their popularity in that they now need extra support in their publicity and communications (specifically in terms of social media) because they seem to become inundated with calls, emails, messages to the Facebook page, and to the Twitter account… But it’s thank you to all you lovely readers that they’ve chosen me for the job! That they’ve picked me for the position. Because if I’m NOT Disordered weren’t so popular then it would be of no benefit to them.


Initially, I was upset to hear that I wasn’t being given the log in details for the specially created accounts; although, at the same time, I understand the risk in allowing someone else access to an organisations’s social media. And now we’ve talked about it; it’s actually a compliment; they think I can do more good through I’m NOT Disordered and my own social media with its extended; and kind-of-huge(!) audience, readers, and followers.



I’m also now delighted to tell you all that on MONDAY 16TH OCTOBER, the nomination categories for the National Service User Awards 2018, were announced to be…

·         Community Social and Vocational Initiatives



·         Breaking Down Barriers: Tackling Stigma



·         Health and Wellbeing Initiative



·         Outstanding Service User Involvement Award (team or individual)



And also the usual – ever popular – Service User Choice Award which will be voted for during the event!!




!!!NOMINATIONS ARE NOW OPEN AND WILL CLOSE ON FRIDAY 8TH DECEMBER 2017

AND

INFORMATION ON HOW TO MAKE A NOMINATION WILL BE HERE SOON!!!