Wednesday, 26 January 2022

MY JANUARY

With my Birthday on the horizon (February 1st), I thought I’d do a bit of a round-up of January; with everything from favourite photos to best purchases…

A FUNNY STORY SEEING ME INTO THE MONTH:

On January 1st, I tweeted ASOS to thank their customer service from New Years Eve but didn’t actually talk about what had happened and the reason why I’d had to contact them – and it was kind of funny, so I thought I’d share it here…

So, I had some items from a huge ASOS order to take to my local post office (which is about a twenty-minute walk away from my home) and since it was processed through ASOS’ website, I figured there was no chance that the post office would have held different hours for New Years Eve. So, after arriving there a hot and sweaty mess from the weight of the parcel, I found that whilst the place was closed, there were still two staff inside and so I desperately knocked on the glass door.

The female assistant I’d met on the many occasions I’ve used the post office, came to the door and asked why I was there and what I had wanted to do. She told me that their systems had been down since 1pm (it was about 4pm) and that they were shutting early anyway. Rather than get into any kind of ‘well-you-should-have-updated-the-website-and-not-accepted-the-return!’ kind of argument, I begged her to just take the parcel in and store it somewhere until they were back open, and I could come in with the QR code. She called her boss over and he said they wouldn’t accept responsibility and I told them that was fine, “but please just take the parcel! I can’t carry it anymore!”

Sunday, 23 January 2022

A COLLECTION OF POSTS ABOUT BOOKS | HAPPY READING DAY 2022

So, I had a great big plan to mark Reading Day with a blog post about my reading journey and all the books on my bookshelf. But, in the end, it wasn’t going to be finished in time and in a chat about it with fellow Blogger; Martin (of gumonmyshoe.com) I got the idea to publish this piece with links to all my previous blog posts around books…

FOR A SHORT LIST OF BOOKS:

I'm NOT Disordered: The BEST Books For Your Mental Health (imnotdisordered.co.uk)

TO HEAR FROM AN ACTUAL, MENTAL HEALTH RELATED, PUBLISHED AUTHOR:

I'm NOT Disordered: 'A YEAR SINCE PUBLISHING' WITH MARTIN BAKER (CO-AUTHOR) | GUEST POST | Ad (imnotdisordered.co.uk)

MY FIRST COLLABORATION FOR A BOOK RELEASE:

I'm NOT Disordered: BOOK REVIEW PART ONE: LINES FROM AN UNFINISHED LOVE SONG BY GAIL CURRY | Ad (imnotdisordered.co.uk)

I'm NOT Disordered: BOOK REVIEW PART TWO : LINES FROM AN UNFINISHED LOVE SONG BY GAIL CURRY | Ad (imnotdisordered.co.uk)

Tuesday, 18 January 2022

WINNIE THE POOH QUOTES THAT ARE DEFINITELY RELATED TO MENTAL HEALTH | CELEBRATING WINNIE THE POOH DAY 2022

So, I was looking up awareness dates and found Blue Monday and Winnie the Pooh Day… Now, as a mental health blogger you’d assume that in having to choose between the two (at fear of overwhelming you all with one post after another), that I’d have chosen Blue Monday. That’s the obvious one. But, if you’ve read, I’m NOT Disordered for a while now, you’ll know that I like to do things a bit differently – I actually really enjoy making seemingly un-related topics, relevant to my blog’s typical genre of mental health! And so, to celebrate Winnie the Pooh Day, here are a few quotes that have fit in really well (in my opinion!) with particular elements of mental health…

Saturday, 15 January 2022

EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT REPORTING ABUSE | MY JOURNEY THROUGH THE PROCESS, ADVICE, & HELPFUL RESOURCES



Inspired by the recent news story of ‘Andrew’ being removed from his royalty and military titles and ordered to answer to charges around sexual abuse in the US, I began considering how the survivor must feel to have received all of this news. Then, thinking about that, has led to this post about my journey through reporting the abuse I experienced, how I coped when my abuser told the Police he was completely innocent, advice I’d give, and some helpful resources…




“WHY DID IT TAKE SO LONG?”

The very first time my abuser hurt me, I fought back, and I screamed. When he clamped a hot, sweaty hand over my mouth and muttered some very believable threats, I immediately knew that it wasn’t going to be the first time he did this. And that from that moment on, I couldn’t tell a single person about it.

And I was right on both counts. Firstly, the abuse continued for maybe three or four occasions per week for the following six months. And secondly, I didn’t tell a soul for that entire time because ironically, the longer I stayed quiet, the more opportunity I had to come up with even more reasons not to report it…

1.       My abuser’s threats that he’d physically hurt me and/or have me kicked out of school

2.       The doubt that anyone would actually believe me

3.       The thought that I deserved it

4.       Wondering why anyone would even care

5.       The worry of what my Mum would do to him(!)

And the list could go on!

Sunday, 9 January 2022

A GUIDE TO EVENTS | MY ONE MILLION READERS PARTY!!!


And all that counts,

Is here and now,

My universe will never be the same

I’m glad you came

The Wanted – Glad You Came

 

So, a few days ago I hosted my second blog party! With the first being to celebrate I’m NOT Disordered reaching 100,000 readers, and this time to celebrate one million readers, I’ve learnt a lot over the years – including lessons learnt from actually attending events. So, I thought I’d share my experiences and any advice I’d give on attending and organising an event…

INVITATIONS

So, I guess I’ll start with everything I’ve learnt about pretty much the first step in an event journey – the invitation… Now, don’t go thinking about a piece of paper with fill-in-the-blank text and yellow balloons – this isn’t a child’s Fifth Birthday party! In fact, I’m not sure I’ve ever attended an event where there’s been any kind of actual image of the event details that could be labelled an invitation. Despite this though, when I started working on my one million readers party, one of the first things I created for it was a PNG with the basic information for the event because I knew it would be more memorable, appealing, and easier to share in emails and on social media rather than a lengthy bulk of text with the ins and outs.

Mostly though, when I’ve been invited to events (including large conferences/meetings), it’s been through an email – typically just checking whether I’m free on a particular date and then a follow-up to my response with the actual plan and details. But for me – in all honesty – the most important quality to the invitation isn’t its appearance and aesthetics; it’s the meaning behind it.