Thursday, 13 December 2018

CAN I DISTRACT MY WAY THROUGH CHRISTMAS? | GRIEF AT CHRISTMASTIME




“Just because I stopped blogging about it, doesn’t mean it went away!”

I recently wrote a blog post on ways to look after your mental health at Christmastime and I talked a little about what a festive person I am and that I didn’t want to come across as not knowing what I was talking about. Like many blog posts, it made me think a lot afterwards and I realized that actually, this year, I can, sort of, identify with some people struggling at this time of year. And whilst the cause for my struggle might seem lesser than others, it’s important to recognize that grief is grief. A person’s turmoil shouldn’t depend on how close the relative was or whether the loss was a human or animal; because it isn’t always about who you’ve lost but what you’ve lost.

This year will be the first Christmas without my Cat, Dolly. This week it will have been two months since she was put to sleep. If you don’t have a clue what I’m talking about then here’s the posts I wrote at the time: here and here because this post isn’t for going through the whole story again; it’s about having to move on.

Wednesday, 12 December 2018

PIXIE'S CHRISTMAS WISHLIST | IDEAL PRESENTS FOR YOUR BUNNY!





Just because my last few posts have been centered around my kitten; Emmy, don’t think I’ve forgotten my bunny! Pixie’s stocking is very full this year and even though I have a kitten to entertain, I still spend a lot of time with her! I think we’ve bonded even more since losing Dolly because in the week between Dolly passing away and getting Emmy, it was just the two of us and some people might say she wouldn’t  – but I truly believe that she knows Dolly has gone.

So after the popularity of Emmy’s Christmas Wishlist, Pixie had to stick her whiskers in(!) and took over the keyboard for a few hours…












Meadow hay and Marigolds are super good for bunnies and I love the little heart-shaped windows!



£4.99 

Tuesday, 11 December 2018

EMMY'S CHRISTMAS WISHLIST!! | THE' PURRFECT' PRESENTS FOR YOUR KITTEN


Thinking of getting me something for Christmas?
 Please pick something from Emmy's Christmas Wishlist instead!
Stuck on what to get your own cat?
Use Emmy's Christmas Wishlist as inspiration!

Sometimes my Mum is really busy blogging and I need cuddles and something to hold onto; this Kickeroo toy would be purrfect


£4.65



I love my laser pen and this would save Mum the arm ache of waving it around because I could play with it for hours!


£16.15

Monday, 10 December 2018

THE DO'S AND DON'TS FOR MENTAL HEALTH AT CHRISTMAS




I really wanted to write a post on how to support someone who struggles with their mental health around Christmastime but since I’m not one of those people, I don’t think I’d be the best person to give advice!

I’ve always been a Christmassy person and whilst bad things have happened at Christmas – one year I was in a Psychiatric Hospital, another we lost our family cat… I haven’t let them shape future ones. I get people asking me all the time how I ‘got better’ and how I can just ‘move on’ from the abuse and these other bad moments and I just think that I don’t have the choice! I mean, how could I give someone or something the power to ruin such a joyful time of the year? And some people will say that they aren’t ‘allowing’ it to be that way and that if they had a choice then they wouldn’t ‘choose to be sad on Christmas.’ But I don’t think it’s about choice; I think it’s about acceptance. Accepting these things have happened to you, accepting they’re in the past, and accepting that you have a future without them.