DAY TWELVE | A SECRET BLOGMAS 2025

“Just as we expect others to value our boundaries, it’s equally important for us to respect the boundaries of others.”

Laurie Buchanan

Welcome to A Secret Blogmas 2025!

Today is Day Twelve and this twelfth post is all about the beneficial impact there is if you – as a content creator – set boundaries within your career/work. In this post, I’ll be looking at exactly what is meant by boundaries for content creators, why they’re important, and how to set them. I’ll also be chatting about my own boundaries and how and why I have them. Keep reading to find out why and how setting boundaries can impact the success and popularity of your content and/or your platform…

BUILDING BOUNDARIES IN MENTAL HEALTH

“We need to have a talk on the subject of what's yours and what's mine.”
― Stieg Larsson, The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo

So, I had Martin Baker (of gumonmyshoe.com) over to my house and we got talking about people who message people that they’re feeling suicidal and it got us onto talking about boundaries and I realized I have a lot to say on the subject; so here’s a post on the topic!


I also talked to my Richmond Fellowship support worker (from their Tyneside floating support service) about how I felt that I’m not the right person for this person to be texting and telling that they feel suicidal. This topic also came up a little while ago because obviously, writing such a huge blog about mental health I do receive emails daily from people saying similar things about feeling suicidal and struggling with their mental health; regardless of my blog’s disclaimer! 


At first, it was overwhelming and upsetting to hear people saying such negative things partly made me feel reassured that I wasn’t alone, but mostly made me feel hopeless because there’s other people feeling the way I do. Then, after a while, I started to view it as… heartwarming, maybe? That people feel and think that I’m a good person to talk to about their mental health and that they trust me with the most vulnerable side of themselves. These days? Well, I still see all these sides to it, but I also think that it’s important to stress that I’m just not the ‘right’ person to talk to. Some may argue and say that they’d rather speak to someone who understands than a professional who thinks they do because they have a degree. I get that. But you have to consider how it would be to tell someone like me that you feel suicidal and to then go ahead and do something…?! I mean, there’s only so much I can do… like I said; I’m not the right person!