DAY FIVE | A SECRET BLOGMAS 2025

“Don’t worry about failures, worry about the chances you miss when you don’t even try.” 

Jack Canfield

Welcome to A Secret Blogmas 2025!

Today is Day Five and this fifth post is all about the benefits and productivity that can be achieved by being creative in your content creation and utilising new ideas in doing so. There’ll be some advice around finding new ideas and how to monitor other content creators and the success – or otherwise – that they have of publishing new ideas. Keep reading to find out why and how new ideas can impact the success and popularity of your content and/or your platform…

HOW TO COPE WITH ALL THE DIFFICULT BITS IN BEING A BLOGGER

When I’m writing a blog post and creating content for, I’m NOT Disordered, I always try to think of both sides to it – to consider whether someone could see the title and think or believe the exact opposite or at least view things from a different angle. And this post was no different; I recognise that the title might sound as though I’m ungrateful or being contradictory because I chose to create my blog and to become a Blogger, so to then say anything bad about it? Well, it might appear to some as though I have no right to do so because I’ve basically put myself in the situation and I’m pretty much choosing to stay in it! I’d like to think though, that regular readers of I’m NOT Disordered will recognise that I almost always talk exclusively about all the benefits and positive elements to being a Blogger and so to confront the difficult bits is a refreshing change and implies my recognition that there are definitely two sides to it...

EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT ABUSE | PART ONE OF THREE

Having thoroughly enjoyed writing the ‘everything-you-need-to-know’ style posts in the past, when I checked through previous posts about abuse, I noticed they all seem to be in pieces… Bits of information, parts of my experience, a few tips; all just separated into so many different posts. Of course, they are that way because up to the date they were published, they were the things I knew. The things that had happened. And I’m not suggesting that I’m at a point where I now know absolutely everything about the subject, but I do feel that I’m at a pretty good stage in my mental health recovery to feel I am now able to collate all that I have learnt, and all that I know. Unfortunately, abuse is a subject where I’d argue you will never fully understand unless it’s something you’ve experienced, so posts like this – media content by survivors – can be the best resource for those who want to learn more…

 

Why You Can Experience the Grieving Process:

I began writing each of the feelings I experienced during and after the abuse I experienced when I was fifteen, and things began to seem familiar in some way. I realised that I was describing four of the five stages of grief determined by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross. I actually thought immediately why that process would be linked with abuse, because it’s about – and can be applied to – any type of loss, not necessarily a death. And I definitely lost a lot going through the abuse…

Even aged fifteen, I was very naïve and having had very little sexual education, I had no real knowledge about what was happening to me. I think it’d be fair to say that I didn’t even realise people like my abuser existed. Rape and sexual abuse (the type I experienced) were so taboo back then (2006) too, so I had never heard of someone else experiencing anything even remotely similar to what I was going through. All those factors meant that one thing I lost in the abuse was that naivety. I do sometimes consider that might have been a good thing because perhaps at that age, I should have probably been more aware of the existence of abuse. There’s something to be said about balance though, recognizing that children and young people, deserve some sort of naivety so that they’re able to fully enjoy their childhood and the simple notion of being young.