We are search lights, we can see in the dark
We are rockets, pointed up at the stars
We are billions of beautiful heats
- P!NK - What About Us
For obvious (I think) reasons, there have been times in my relapse where I’ve felt reluctant to go on with life and have become determined to end it. And yes, sometimes; I’ve tried to. More recently (like literally the last four days) I’ve begun to see some changes in my mental health from the medication getting back in my system and one of these has been finding – and then clinging onto – all the reasons why I shouldn’t die. All the reasons I deserve life. Deserve my recovery.
And now that I’ve learnt
these three important reasons, I thought it was time to share them with all my
lovely readers in the hope that it inspires others to find their own reasons.
Their own rationale to fight back against all of those feelings of depression
and all of those suicidal thoughts…
I want you all to know
though, that these three reasons aren’t my only reasons – just the main ones
and I thought that if I condensed them into these three then perhaps people who
feel that they may only be able to find
one or two reasons to be alive, don’t feel hopeless and pressured in
thinking that they should have lots of reasons or feeling like their few
reasons are inadequate. There’s no rule here. In my opinion, if you find anything
that will motivate you, then it counts. It counts for something. For
everything.
1. YOUR PEOPLE

2. YOUR POTENTIAL
This is obviously one of the
trickiest things to recognize. Especially on your dark days and in your black moments
- probably why I came up with this list and this particular point on a ‘good’
day. I currently have a huge, important project in the works that has the
potential to change services for Service Users who are a trauma survivors and
that, has been a huge influence on my recovery during this relapse. I’m not
going to lie; there was an occasion after my idea for the project was
successful, that I had it drilled into me by the auditory hallucinations that I
didn’t deserve the success but now? In this moment? I can see that I
do. I worked my ass off to have my idea turned into a project so why shouldn’t I reap the rewards? The voices tell me that I don’t deserve it; that I deservedwhat
happened to me what was done to me. And after spending years trying to
fight this and convince them that I hadn’t, the way I’ve learnt to deal with it
is to say ‘what if I did deserve it? Right. Well, it’s happened; now why do I
deserve the rest?’ And they (the voices) have no rebuttal. I realise this is an
individual thing and that not everyone who experiences auditory hallucinations
will hear them say these things and the ways I cope with the voices I hear may
not work for another person who hears voices but I thought it was worth putting
it out there. In case it helps just one person. Another aid in learning that I
have potential has been attending my first meeting as a Richmond Fellowship Working Together Committee Member. It was great to be in a room surrounded by
people who confirmed my potential and encouraged me to exercise my… talents?
Strengths? Capabilities?
do. I worked my ass off to have my idea turned into a project so why shouldn’t I reap the rewards? The voices tell me that I don’t deserve it; that I deserved
3.
THE LITTLE THINGS
Like, the feeling I get when
my bunny and cat are both eating at the same time. Or when I take my makeup off
after spending a day with a full face of it. When I get a cold Diet Pepsi out
of the fridge. Or receive a message from one of my best friend’s after being
off the radar for weeks. Hugs from my Mum. Finishing a book (currently
Everything Everything by Nicola Yoon). The reassurance of normality after
watching Pretty Little Liars. Taking my pillow and duvet to the settee. When my
hair backcombs just the way I want it to – and stays there all day!
Professionals acknowledging they’ve made a mistake. Making it onto another disc
in Grey’s Anatomy (I’ve only ever gotten up to season eight/nine!). Snapchats
of friends’ cats. Finishing a blog post. The pride I get now from taking my
medication. Having a healthy bank balance. When an ASOS delivery arrives. Getting
rid of a headache.
All those little things that give you even the smallest of smiles.
All those little things that give you even the smallest of smiles.